Yes, Moms Matter

Mornings are the hardest. Because mornings are the times when everyone has somewhere to go. Alfie is rushing through his breakfast because he has to get to work. The Pea is rushing to get to school. 3Po and Jammy, well, preschool starts at noon but they're rushing anyway because they want to be done with breakfast and get on with whatever game they're playing that day.

Me? I'm rushing too. I'm rushing to make lunches, sign permission slips and clear up the breakfast table. Sometimes I find myself kneeling underneath the table, scrubbing away at a lump of something that was spilled from dinner the night before, hurrying to get rid of the lump before someone steps on it and squashes it and trails the lumpy stuff all over the house.

What am I doing here? Groveling on the floor like a dog, cleaning up everyone's mess while they're sitting above me, having their breakfast? I have two graduate degrees, for God's sake! I used to go places too, you know. I racked up the frequent flyer miles in my time; I was the one the airlines used to upgrade to better seats!

Yes, mornings are the hardest. Alfie, bless his heart, tells me all the time how he appreciates what I do, how there's no one else on earth he wants raising our kids. And that helps. For those under-the-table moments, when I'm feeling low and more than a little sorry for myself, I need all the reminders I can get, that I Matter. To Alfie, my kids, my relatives, my friends, to society in general.

I think all moms, whether they're under a table or behind a desk, need these pick-me-ups from time to time. They need affirmation that all this scrubbing and sacrifice Matters. That Moms Matter.

Which is why I'm happy to have found some people who actually Get It -- the founders of the Why Moms Matter Project . The bloggers behind MomFaves (Josh and Rebecca) and ExtraordinaryMommy (Danielle) are going to feature an inspirational mother every week on their new Blog Talk Radio show, Why Moms Matter -- to remind every mother that they do matter, and why. The show starts on March 6 and runs every Friday at 12:30 PST. If you know a mother or grandmother who Matters, you can go over and nominate her over at


ExtraordinaryMommy said...

Oh! You COMPLETELY understand what we are doing! You get it!! Thank you so much for this wonderful post. You do Matter!

Anonymous said...

Wow! This is what IT is all about. Thank you for helping bring attention to this. Really enjoyed reading this post, going to share it with my wife tonight - she get's IT too. Like your husband, I'm so appreciative of who she is and everything she does.

Thanks again!


Shangrila said...

This sounds great! I've been feeling pretty frustrated lately, not feeling as appreciated as I have at other times in my life-thanks for the reminder that what I'm doing matters, and that I'm someone separate from "just Mama"!

Anonymous said...

this is great, thanks for the reminder!

Anonymous said...

You're so right--one of my least favorite chores is getting down on my hands and knees multiple times a day wiping up crumbs and spills under the table. At least the diaper stage is over!

Anonymous said...

Great post! Moms do matter, every day! You have a wonderful family!

Rachel Ferrucci

Joyce said...

I totally get it too! I am sitting here right now listing everything I need to do today and all the million things this weekend with everyone home and going to sports, parties and all that stuff!